I can’t even think of year, like this one, that has been so stressful to so many people. Everyone has been affected, though some clearly more so, or more egregiously, than others.
So many feelings … fearful, angry, frustrated, uncertain, abandoned, neglected, lonely, depressed, anxious, and on and on. Can you relate? And each of us has different conditioning, a different perspective, different life situations, and processes the “V” and the “V” and the lockdown and the restrictions … well, differently.
But no matter how you’re processing, most of these 2020 feelings (whether new-found or re-surfaced) are NOT comfortable. Am I right?
What if you could get more comfortable, release some of the gunky gunk you may have taken on in 2020, and reclaim your physical and emotional vitality?
I invite you to do just that! You can learn more here.
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Do you have a big dream or goal you’d like to realize? Something you’d really like to see happen, or something you’d like to make happen ... for yourself, or for you and your family, or for your community ... or for the world at large?
A goal is a dream with a stated realization date.
For purposes of this writing,
For purposes of this writing,
“dream” and “goal” will be used interchangeably.
So, let me ask you ... Do you even dare to dream?
A world-wide, or larger community, dream?
Do you have a big, hairy, audacious dream/goal, like world peace and feeding all the starving children? Good for you! I’m glad there are people who have those kinds of dreams/goals!
A YOU-centered dream?
Maybe your goal is a little more YOU-centered? That’s ok, too, of course. Any dream that makes your heart sing, is perfect for you!
Maybe your necessities are well taken care of, and you dream of a huge estate, with staff (chef, house manager, chauffeur, trainer), in The Hamptons? Private jet and pilot on the side, of course, to fulfill your heart’s desire to whisk you away to the four corners of the earth?
A goal around thriving ... in a financial sense?
Is your goal paying off your children’s (or grandchildren’s) college education, so that neither you nor they will be saddled with student loans? Or maybe your goal is paying off your own student loans???
Is your goal to make sure you are prepared for your (eventual) retirement, so you don’t have to work into your 70’s or 80’s, unless you really want to, and you don’t have to burden your kids to support you?
Is your goal to make the maximum contribution to your Roth IRA each year to get you closer, still, to being able to retire?
Is your goal to pay off your mortgage, so that your home is free and clear - and that is one less monthly bill - and now you can save for, or invest in, something else. And no matter what, you have a home.
A goal around thriving ... in your physical, emotional and mental energies?
Maybe you’d like to be able to consult with, and perhaps receive treatment from, alternative healthcare practitioners, or other medical practitioners, who are not covered by your health insurance.
Maybe you’d like to be able to even just afford health insurance?
Is your goal to be able to take better care of yourself? Eat fresh organic foods, take high-quality supplements, receive monthly (or weekly!) massages, enjoy get a trainer, enjoy a gym membership, attend a retreat workshop?
Maybe your goal is to have all your high-quality supplements, which contribute to you living your most vibrant life, paid for.
Maybe your dream is to have a bit of a not-accountable-to-anybody stash of cash. That can feel oh so liberating!
Would you like to refresh your body – look and feel 10 years younger?
A goal about surviving ... just gettin’ by?
Perhaps your goal is to pay off that debt (credit card, car loan, line-of-credit) that has been insidiously creeping up on you over the years, and becoming more and more a burden and weighing you down … even as you tell no one the situation you've gotten yourself into, and you become more and more stuck.
Is your goal to purchase a reliable vehicle, so that you have transportation to get to-and-from your job … so that you can continue to earn money to pay all your bills?
Maybe someone else (your spouse, your child, the government) is supporting you, and your goal is to be self-sufficient, self-reliant.
Desperate for a way out, perhaps, are you in an untenable, insufferable relationship, and it’s imperative that you get out of it. And you would be able to ... if only you had the resources.
There are so many “levels”, and types, of goals/dreams!
I've barely touched the surface here, of course. Your dream, your “level” of dream, at this time in your life, isn’t right or wrong. The dream you have, right now, is most likely based on your circumstances (e.g., financial inflow and reserve, age, relationship/family status, etc.), your personality, and even your background (your childhood and conditioning). And, of course, as time goes on and/or circumstances change, your dreams and goals may change.
Over the years, I have worked my way through many of these “levels” of goals, and I’ve figured out a LOT along the way. One of the things I’ve figured out is that I am you, and you are me, and each of us is here to help illuminate the way for the other. We all encounter obstacles, and learning from someone who has found their way around them, is invaluable. Long ago, I embraced learning from the “wise ones who appeared before me” … and I still do!
Accomplishing your goal may require nothing more than invested time and effort, along with dedication – putting something on project status, and making sure it gets done.
However, very often, fulfilling a goal requires an infusion of some amount of cash (resources), and for you, that lack of resources may be what is blocking you from fulfilling (or even pursuing!) your heart’s most aching desire … and that’s precisely why most of the goals I mentioned have to do with resources.
And you know what else? Realizing your dream always involves believing in yourself, and knowing that you can do it, you can have it, you can enjoy it … the “it” being whatever your dream is.
YOUR dream IS important!!!
Whatever “it” may be, YOUR dream IS important. Your dream matters. Don’t let anyone tell you otherwise.
If you feel blocked in pursuing and achieving your dream, you are invited to reach out to me. Seriously. No guarantees that I can help. But I can listen, and really hear you, and if I think I can help you move toward realizing your dream, I’ll let you know, and we can move forward in making a plan.
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Imagine this … You’re seated in a diner, enjoying your meal, and what are you very likely to see??? A waitress going from table to table, offering coffee – to bring you a cup, or to refill your cup.
Am I right? (This is fairly stereotypical for me. If it’s not for you, just go with it, ok?)
Does every restaurant patron accept her offer?
Am I right? (This is fairly stereotypical for me. If it’s not for you, just go with it, ok?)
Does every restaurant patron accept her offer?
No.
Why not?
There could be any number of reasons:
They don’t drink coffee, for medical, religious or other reasons, or because they dislike it .
They’ve had enough coffee that day.
They might want some more in a little while, but not right now.
They can’t afford a cup of coffee.
They can afford a cup of coffee, and they choose not to purchase one at that time.
They like coffee, but they don’t care for that diner’s coffee.
They’ve never tasted coffee, and they don’t feel like trying it now.
And the list could go on … you get the idea.
If a restaurant patron does not accept the waitress’ offer, does that mean that they will never ever accept her offer down the road?
If a restaurant patron does not accept the waitress’ offer, does that mean that they will never ever accept her offer down the road?
Of course not. The condition for which her offer was rejected could change at any time, and then they may wish to accept her offer of coffee. It’s also true that they may, indeed, never ever (even on future diner visits) accept her offer.
When the waitress’ offer to bring a cup of coffee, or refill a cup of coffee, is declined, does the waitress get upset? Have her feelings hurt? Resign from her job? Quit offering coffee? Blame herself? Pout?
No!
Why not?!
Well, she understands that, whether or not her customers take her up on her offer for coffee, offering coffee is part of her job (being of service to her customers), and if it turns out that her customer would like some coffee, it will make them very happy, and they will be pleased with her service.
This is the main thing though: She also understands that the customer’s decision is not all about her. She shows up, as who she is in her position as server, and offers to serve her customers … and she understands and accepts that, at any time, a customer may not accept her offering of coffee. Period.
Now, I’ve been describing someone in a job (the waitress), but this could just as well pertain to how someone shows up in their life.
I’ve always had a natural bent toward health and wellness (physical, mental, emotional, relationship, and more recently, financial wellness), and I find myself showing up as someone who wishes to serve others along those lines, by listening, understanding, and offering solutions, if I can.
Hmmm … there’s that word, “offering”...
No!
Why not?!
Well, she understands that, whether or not her customers take her up on her offer for coffee, offering coffee is part of her job (being of service to her customers), and if it turns out that her customer would like some coffee, it will make them very happy, and they will be pleased with her service.
This is the main thing though: She also understands that the customer’s decision is not all about her. She shows up, as who she is in her position as server, and offers to serve her customers … and she understands and accepts that, at any time, a customer may not accept her offering of coffee. Period.
Now, I’ve been describing someone in a job (the waitress), but this could just as well pertain to how someone shows up in their life.
I’ve always had a natural bent toward health and wellness (physical, mental, emotional, relationship, and more recently, financial wellness), and I find myself showing up as someone who wishes to serve others along those lines, by listening, understanding, and offering solutions, if I can.
Hmmm … there’s that word, “offering”...
Do I get upset, have my feelings hurt, pout, when someone does not accept the solution I’ve offered?
If I’m being honest, yep, sometimes I do.
But you know what? That’s ok, because life is a journey, as they say, and I am getting better at understanding and accepting that it’s ok for me to show up as me, with my heart for helping others create a brighter future, and that others may still choose to decline what I’m offering.
It may not be the right offer for them. It may not be the right timing for them. They may not have confidence in me and/or the solution I’ve offered. They may not have the confidence in themselves to implement the solution.
That’s all ok. I’ll just keep showing up as me … offering my “coffee”.
And my "coffee" will be just the right offer for just the right person at just the right time. No accidents. Everything is working out just as it's supposed to.
So, tell me …
What kind of “coffee” do you offer?
What kind of “coffee” do you offer?
What is your "light" that you shine in someone else's spaces of darkness.
If you're not sure, trust me, it's worth finding out.
And then show up as you ... and offer ...
and trust that you will connect with those who need to receive your offer.
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Beyond intuition is intentuition.
Have you ever heard of that?
A very skilled, knowledgeable, effective, and intuitive massage therapist first made me aware of that word and concept – the marrying of intention and intuition.
Allow me to share some of my experience ...
Back in 2009 and 2010, when I was studying to become a Certified BodyTalk Practitioner, I felt really challenged (overwhelmed and freaked out, if I’m being honest!) when I learned that, in order to be successful, I would be required to “tap into” my intuition. It was during my immersion in BodyTalk studies that I learned that we are all intuitive. Every one of us. But I’ll tell you what … I sure didn’t feel like I was, and because I didn’t feel like I was, I didn’t trust my intuition at all.
Well, long story short, I came to believe that I did, indeed, possess intuition … once I took a leap of faith to just trust it. And once I began to trust it, so much opened up for me. I began to be guided to select certain supplements, or essential oils, or items at the grocery store, and I came to see it as me being led to select, or take some sort of action, or do, what was for my highest good, and for the highest good for all involved.
And then there’s the concept of “intention” – the purpose, the goal, the desired outcome – when it’s something more specific than the more general “highest good for all involved”. Without intention, energy is unfocused, having no direction, no purpose. Energy follows intention. In a sense, I think of intention as “asking” for, or envisioning, a particular outcome, situation, circumstance, development. You could also think of it as "requesting" a state of "beingness".
When studying BodyTalk, I came to know that whatever the mind believes to be so, becomes so in the body. The mind is very powerful. One of my reads a few years back, was Dr. Joe Dispenza’s You Are the Placebo: Making Your Mind Matter, which led me to a daily, first-thing-in-the-morning, meditation practice, creating each day according to my intended outcome. And, more recently, I attended a personal development camp, and through several of the exercises we did, I came to know that asking for an intended outcome, somehow (don’t ask me how!) creates a wind-beneath-my-wings effect – a bit of oompf from forces unseen. That’s my story anyway … and I’m sticking to it!
So, now you have intentuition: accessing your intuition, as inspired and guided by your intention.
I find that I most frequently employ my intentuition, when I have a choice or decision to make around desiring a particular outcome. For example, if I’m feeling kind of low energy, I will approach my collection of essential oils with the intention of selecting the oil which will best boost my energy, and allowing my intuition (not having to know all the facts and the properties of any of the essential oils from which I’m choosing) to do the choosing. (Essential oils, especially, lend themselves to incredible results when selected using intentuition!)
And, I then trust that my choice is going to bring me my desired result.
And guess what? More often than not, it does!
So, tell me …
Can you see ways in which you are, consciously or unconsciously, using your intentuition?
If not, try utilizing your inborn intentuition. (Yes, we all have it!) Give it a go! Doing so will open up so many possibilities, get you unstuck, and make life oh so interesting!
Have you ever heard of that?
A very skilled, knowledgeable, effective, and intuitive massage therapist first made me aware of that word and concept – the marrying of intention and intuition.
Allow me to share some of my experience ...
Back in 2009 and 2010, when I was studying to become a Certified BodyTalk Practitioner, I felt really challenged (overwhelmed and freaked out, if I’m being honest!) when I learned that, in order to be successful, I would be required to “tap into” my intuition. It was during my immersion in BodyTalk studies that I learned that we are all intuitive. Every one of us. But I’ll tell you what … I sure didn’t feel like I was, and because I didn’t feel like I was, I didn’t trust my intuition at all.
Well, long story short, I came to believe that I did, indeed, possess intuition … once I took a leap of faith to just trust it. And once I began to trust it, so much opened up for me. I began to be guided to select certain supplements, or essential oils, or items at the grocery store, and I came to see it as me being led to select, or take some sort of action, or do, what was for my highest good, and for the highest good for all involved.
And then there’s the concept of “intention” – the purpose, the goal, the desired outcome – when it’s something more specific than the more general “highest good for all involved”. Without intention, energy is unfocused, having no direction, no purpose. Energy follows intention. In a sense, I think of intention as “asking” for, or envisioning, a particular outcome, situation, circumstance, development. You could also think of it as "requesting" a state of "beingness".
When studying BodyTalk, I came to know that whatever the mind believes to be so, becomes so in the body. The mind is very powerful. One of my reads a few years back, was Dr. Joe Dispenza’s You Are the Placebo: Making Your Mind Matter, which led me to a daily, first-thing-in-the-morning, meditation practice, creating each day according to my intended outcome. And, more recently, I attended a personal development camp, and through several of the exercises we did, I came to know that asking for an intended outcome, somehow (don’t ask me how!) creates a wind-beneath-my-wings effect – a bit of oompf from forces unseen. That’s my story anyway … and I’m sticking to it!
So, now you have intentuition: accessing your intuition, as inspired and guided by your intention.
I find that I most frequently employ my intentuition, when I have a choice or decision to make around desiring a particular outcome. For example, if I’m feeling kind of low energy, I will approach my collection of essential oils with the intention of selecting the oil which will best boost my energy, and allowing my intuition (not having to know all the facts and the properties of any of the essential oils from which I’m choosing) to do the choosing. (Essential oils, especially, lend themselves to incredible results when selected using intentuition!)
And, I then trust that my choice is going to bring me my desired result.
And guess what? More often than not, it does!
So, tell me …
Can you see ways in which you are, consciously or unconsciously, using your intentuition?
If not, try utilizing your inborn intentuition. (Yes, we all have it!) Give it a go! Doing so will open up so many possibilities, get you unstuck, and make life oh so interesting!
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I feel really fortunate that my (adult, married) daughter is living nearby. She and I have gotten into the very lovely habit of having breakfast together every week or two - once in a while at her house, but typically at my house. Whenever I hosted, I would usually make some kind of egg and cheese omelet or frittata, and perhaps some fruit, or maybe even pancakes or cinnamon rolls … if we’re having a “treat”.
Well, she and her husband recently decided to explore going toward a more plant-based diet - not “whole hog” (so to speak), but in a relaxed-and-let’s-ease-into-it kind of way. And so, desiring to support my daughter’s diet choices, I decided to change up the plan for our upcoming breakfast - no more eggs, cheese, milk, cream, butter … not to mention bacon or sausage! (And, to make matters even more interesting, for years my daughter has had issues with beans, soy, tofu, and the like. That meant that even a bean burrito with guac was OUT!)
So, what did I do to figure out what to serve for our upcoming breakfast in a couple of days???
I made a post on Facebook asking for recommendations and suggestions … and, WOW, did my Facebook world ever step up to help a girl out!
I received so many excellent suggestions, and even several recipes. A lot of suggestions for avocado-toast, which I love! Also, a number of suggestions involving eggs. (I have come to learn that the term, “plant-based” is a bit flexible, apparently.) And the suggestions involving beans or tofu … well, I wasn’t too sure about those, because of my daughter’s past issues with them.
The next day after receiving all these very helpful suggestions, was the day before when we were to have breakfast. I was very caught up in my work all day long, and I never got around to planning our meal … which, in all honesty, is pretty much par for the course for me.
Nevertheless, I had about a 1-hour break in the late afternoon to go shop for several (potential) ingredients we could use for our breakfast. I went to the health food store, armed with some vague ideas about what I wanted to accomplish. A very nice store clerk helped me find all kinds of items, which were mostly unfamiliar to me. I thanked him, and he said, “No problem. These are the foods I eat all the time.”
When my daughter came over the next morning, we got to it!
First course
We started off browning some onion in avocado oil. Then she crumbled in the shelf-stable extra-firm tofu (turns out, she’s been doing ok with it!), and sprinkled in nutritional yeast and turmeric. We served this, dotted with a bit of Sriracha, with sliced avocado, sauerkraut and grapes.
Second course
We used a pancake mix (ok…not totally plant-based, but within tolerances), and to substitute for egg, we used a boxed “egg replacer” added to warm water, and for the milk we used oat milk. We served the pancakes with strawberries, “buttery sticks” (crafted from various plant oils) and maple syrup. Coffee with oat milk for our beverage.
The meal was yummo … from top to bottom!
The best part of all? We had a great time making it together! She taught me a couple of things, and I shared with her some of the suggestions I learned from my Facebook tribe.
I’m grateful to you (you know who you are!) for helping me figure this out … and of course there’s so much more to learn, right? And I’m especially grateful for my daughter and son-in-law for their exploration, which led me to mine.
At this point, I’m not sure how far I’ll go with a plant-based diet, but one thing is for sure – there are resources galore! You just have to take a moment to ask, and then listen.
What recent “exploration” have you embarked on, for which you asked, and received, valuable input from friendly, helpful people, who were willing to be a resource for your “journey”?
Well, she and her husband recently decided to explore going toward a more plant-based diet - not “whole hog” (so to speak), but in a relaxed-and-let’s-ease-into-it kind of way. And so, desiring to support my daughter’s diet choices, I decided to change up the plan for our upcoming breakfast - no more eggs, cheese, milk, cream, butter … not to mention bacon or sausage! (And, to make matters even more interesting, for years my daughter has had issues with beans, soy, tofu, and the like. That meant that even a bean burrito with guac was OUT!)
So, what did I do to figure out what to serve for our upcoming breakfast in a couple of days???
I made a post on Facebook asking for recommendations and suggestions … and, WOW, did my Facebook world ever step up to help a girl out!
I received so many excellent suggestions, and even several recipes. A lot of suggestions for avocado-toast, which I love! Also, a number of suggestions involving eggs. (I have come to learn that the term, “plant-based” is a bit flexible, apparently.) And the suggestions involving beans or tofu … well, I wasn’t too sure about those, because of my daughter’s past issues with them.
The next day after receiving all these very helpful suggestions, was the day before when we were to have breakfast. I was very caught up in my work all day long, and I never got around to planning our meal … which, in all honesty, is pretty much par for the course for me.
Nevertheless, I had about a 1-hour break in the late afternoon to go shop for several (potential) ingredients we could use for our breakfast. I went to the health food store, armed with some vague ideas about what I wanted to accomplish. A very nice store clerk helped me find all kinds of items, which were mostly unfamiliar to me. I thanked him, and he said, “No problem. These are the foods I eat all the time.”
When my daughter came over the next morning, we got to it!
First course
We started off browning some onion in avocado oil. Then she crumbled in the shelf-stable extra-firm tofu (turns out, she’s been doing ok with it!), and sprinkled in nutritional yeast and turmeric. We served this, dotted with a bit of Sriracha, with sliced avocado, sauerkraut and grapes.
Second courseWe used a pancake mix (ok…not totally plant-based, but within tolerances), and to substitute for egg, we used a boxed “egg replacer” added to warm water, and for the milk we used oat milk. We served the pancakes with strawberries, “buttery sticks” (crafted from various plant oils) and maple syrup. Coffee with oat milk for our beverage.
The meal was yummo … from top to bottom!
The best part of all? We had a great time making it together! She taught me a couple of things, and I shared with her some of the suggestions I learned from my Facebook tribe.
I’m grateful to you (you know who you are!) for helping me figure this out … and of course there’s so much more to learn, right? And I’m especially grateful for my daughter and son-in-law for their exploration, which led me to mine.
At this point, I’m not sure how far I’ll go with a plant-based diet, but one thing is for sure – there are resources galore! You just have to take a moment to ask, and then listen.
What recent “exploration” have you embarked on, for which you asked, and received, valuable input from friendly, helpful people, who were willing to be a resource for your “journey”?
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